Is this really Love?

counter culture

Happy Monday People,

How are you all doing? Hope your weekend went well? I am still trying to get back into the blogging groove and keeping up with alot of other blogger! *Phew* Today, we would be looking at Love and redefining it!

Let’s dive!


Over the years, I have learnt about love in different ways. I have heard Love being defined as God himself, Love being associated with giving and the other 1 Corinthians 13 4-13 definition of Love. There is only one thing that baffles me, the narrative before the popular parts of 1 Cor 13

1. I may speak in different languages, whether human or even of angels. But if I don’t have love, I am only a noisy bell or a ringing cymbal. I may have the gift of prophecy, I may understand all secrets and know everything there is to know, and I may have faith so great that I can move mountains. But even with all this, if I don’t have love, I am nothing. I may give away everything I have to help others, and I may even give my body as an offering to be burned. But I gain nothing by doing all this if I don’t have love.

I may speak in different languages, 

I may have faith to move mountains,

I may give away everything I have to help others,

I may have the gift of prophesy,

I may even give my body to be burned

All these seem like good intentions but the Bible doesn’t characterise it as LOVE! This is first said before all the other Characteristics, so we don’t mix it up. We don’t mistake our patience, kindness, gifts etc in all the verse above (vs 1-3) as Love.

What then is Love?

One of the most popular verses in the scriptures is John 3:16

16 Yes, God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him would not be lost but have eternal life.

We sort of mentally stop at “God gave us his son” so, we are glad at the privilege, we are thankful for it and we camp there and “claim” the privilege of being sons. However, we forget that there is a reason for God’s gift of his son to us.

“…so that everyone who believes in him would not be lost but have eternal life”

1 John 4:7-10

Dear friends, we should love each other, because love comes from God. Everyone who loves has become God’s child. And so everyone who loves knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love to us: He sent his only Son into the world to give us life through him. 10 True love is God’s love for us, not our love for God. He sent his Son as the way to take away our sins.

One thing common here is “Eternal life”. Looking at the life of Jesus, His mission on earth, how he lived his life all sums up to him calling us into his fold – giving us life – and calling others to do the same. That is how he showed his love to us. God’s definition of Love was not just to give us Christ to show that he was a good God with good intentions but so that those who believe in him will have eternal life.

God, giving us his son, he had our eternity in mind. So, whatever I do that has the eternity of the recipient in mind is true Love. Think about this, I can continue to give material things, financial rewards and not give you Jesus. I can continue to be nice to you and still hold on to “My Jesus” and not share him with you. I can give ALL my possessions to you and even my life and not give you Jesus. I can tell you the prophesy that will “change” your life and not give you Jesus. The one that can give eternal life.

All of that is just me having good intentions, being a good person and at best a philanthropist, but when I KNOW that there is an afterlife and I don’t introduce you to the person that gives life, what is the point of all my ‘goodness’ if it all ends on this side of eternity? We need re-evaluate our definition of Love. We need to love people with their eternity in mind.

That’s Gods love, that is True Love.

Grace & Peace






  1. Rhapsody says:


    Very enlightening…..reminds me of…..

    “For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one world, even in this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself'” Galations 5:13-14

    Biggest rule: You shall love your neighbor as yourself’ hence LOVE is the key

    thanks for sharing.

    1. Arike says:

      Yes oh! Love is key!!! Thanks!

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