What I did when I knew my marriage was over

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“I Do” “In Sickness and in health” “For better for worse” “For richer for poorer” “As long as you both shall live” “I do”   These were the vows I made before God and man. They felt like just mere words at the altar because my feet hurt from the heels and I really just wanted to get it over with as I am not a big fan of getting all the attention.

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7 Lessons I’ve learnt in 7 Years of Blogging

Hello People! Happy New June! It’s the beginning of the first half of the year. It’s amazing how this year has been, I am super grateful for God’s grace, mercy and I am grateful for You!! Those of you that still find time to read what I write. I am really grateful. SOooo… May 24, 2010 I wrote my first blog post ever. I remember asking on Facebook for name suggestions and since then my blog has evolved from The Rebirth of a Dramaqueen to Girl at the foot of the Hill to Arike and now the Counter Culture. Looking …

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Learning to walk again || The Counter Culture

  There is no way I can tell my story with revealing how extreme I can be sometimes – rather, most times. I’ve noticed this pattern in my life and here’s how it plays out; I am hit with a truth or curious about something, once I get convinced about it, I start a journey to the extreme to either learn or unlearn as the case may be. Here are a few examples of how it’s played out in my life. When I was in the university, It was the beginning of my second year in the university, a seemingly …

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Feb 2017 Recap and March Goals

Happy International Women’s day!!! #BeBoldforChange Happy New Month People! How has the first week of March been for you? I kept postponing writing this post because there’s just been so much going on around and before you say “Jack robinson” 24 hours is gone *Phew* I would say February was a good and productive month but with the way March is going and me already dropping the ball, I doubt I would be able to say so for this Month. Pray for a Sister! So? What was I up to this February? Personal Goals: This year, I just didn’t want …

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6 tips to form and keep a Habit

Habit is a routine of behaviour that is repeated regularly and tens to occur subconsciously (Source) Research shows that it takes about 21-30 days to form a new habit. Our success or failure is determined by the habits that we have cultivated in our lives. The aim of this article is to help us look through our goals and whatever we want to achieve this year and form habits that will bring us closer to making the goal(s) a reality. Here are 6 tips to help you form and keep a habit; Create a conducive environment: When you are ready …

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How my marriage helped me understand God’s love language

I love Love. Or atleast, the idea I had in my head before I got married. After I got married, I soon realised that I needed to get my head out of the clouds, erase all the expectations and purge myself of the ideas Hollywood had planted in my mind. It was time for work. Expressing Love Looking back at my friendships and romantic relationships over the years, I would call myself a fierce-heady-romantic lover. I used to think that the proof of my love for someone/something is writing about it, talking about it and telling the person about it. …

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January 2017 Recap and February goals

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  Happy New Month people! Welcome to the month of Love. Is it really just me or did January go by so fast? I know it felt long because there were 5 Mondays and Tuesdays in the month but all the same, it went by so fast. Phew. I am just glad we are making progress already. Here’s How my January went; Personal Goals: I didn’t have any written personal goals this year mainly because I didn’t think that I was gonna follow through with them if I made too much ‘fuss’ about the new year. One thing I knew …

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5 ways of dealing with Envy

Social media has made the world a global village, it comes with fair share of advantages and disadvantages. The fact that you can literally now see and know what is going on in other people’s lives by the click of a button can breed on of the disadvantages; Envy. Once upon a time if you were not told physically what was happening, there was no way of you knowing but this day and age brings to your attention things that people you don’t even know or have a relationship with are doing in their lives, gradually, one begins to feel …

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For those battling with Inconsistency and how to overcome it!

For the past 3-4 years I have spent the last day of the each of the year sleeping into the new year. Before then, I had religiously gone to every watch night service, written down prayers for the new year and goals to achieve and by the end of the year will do the same thing over again without much difference in my life.   So, I stopped deceiving myself.     Don’t get me wrong though, there’s nothing wrong with going for watch night service as long as you understand that it’s the things you do in the course …

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Happy New Year, 2016 Recap + First Giveaway!!!

Happy New year to you all!!!!!!!! 2016 was indeed an amazing year. I am forever grateful for the things that happened and while I am not a very huge fan of making a big deal out of a new year, I will be forever grateful because it gives me the opportunity to look back and evaluate. I know nothing magical is going to happen because it’s a “New Year” and I have to be the one to make a conscious effort to change whatever it is that needs to change with God’s help and that is exactly what I intend …

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