Being small and cute: 28 years of life

For as long as I can remember, I have always been the “cute small girl” and for some reason I have internalized it so much that I only see myself as that – cute small girl. I now went and got married to a man 12 years older I am and it didn’t really help me to see myself in the light of the fact that I am not really a small girl anymore.  Everytime, I go out with my husband in his circle of friends in their 30s and 40s I feel so left  out and feel like what …

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Life lately: I am reviving my blog

*wipes cobwebs* *dusts chair and table* I always laugh at people when I go to their blogs 6 months later and the last post is “I’m back” just typing this makes me laugh. So, I am back and not planning to go anywhere this time. I recently decided to go to my old blogs and I noticed that I was actually a consistent blogger once in my life. I know seasons have changed in my life but occasionally the love for the art keeps drawing me back and I usually feel like I am “left behind” in this fast paced …

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What I did when I knew my marriage was over

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“I Do” “In Sickness and in health” “For better for worse” “For richer for poorer” “As long as you both shall live” “I do”   These were the vows I made before God and man. They felt like just mere words at the altar because my feet hurt from the heels and I really just wanted to get it over with as I am not a big fan of getting all the attention.

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How my marriage helped me understand God’s love language

I love Love. Or atleast, the idea I had in my head before I got married. After I got married, I soon realised that I needed to get my head out of the clouds, erase all the expectations and purge myself of the ideas Hollywood had planted in my mind. It was time for work. Expressing Love Looking back at my friendships and romantic relationships over the years, I would call myself a fierce-heady-romantic lover. I used to think that the proof of my love for someone/something is writing about it, talking about it and telling the person about it. …

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January 2017 Recap and February goals

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  Happy New Month people! Welcome to the month of Love. Is it really just me or did January go by so fast? I know it felt long because there were 5 Mondays and Tuesdays in the month but all the same, it went by so fast. Phew. I am just glad we are making progress already. Here’s How my January went; Personal Goals: I didn’t have any written personal goals this year mainly because I didn’t think that I was gonna follow through with them if I made too much ‘fuss’ about the new year. One thing I knew …

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One thing to do to spoil your wife

Happy wife, Happy life – Unknown We naturally put our best foot forward before we get married and after you get married, things begin to sizzle out because we are not putting in as much effort as we did in the beginning. It is equally as important after you get married to keep the fire burning. It it the duty of both parties to ensure that they do the work it entails. First let’s talk about our attitude as a couple towards spoiling each other; Do not spoil the other person with the expectation of reciprocity. Do what you have …

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How to transform his bachelor pad to a home

Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action. – Mother Teresa I have never really considered myself a homemaker. Being domestic is one of my least favourite things to do, but when I do set my mind to doing domestic chores, I put in my best. So, definitely I am not qualified to be giving profession home designing advise but this is what worked for me as a new wife thrown into the domestic deep end by her husband. You see, my husband placed so much expectation …

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5 Lessons I’ve learnt in 5 Months of Marriage

Today is Christmas day!!! I did my own Christmas post yesterday 🙂 because today is our 5th Months Anniversary and I wanted to share this with you! I am sure every newly wed must have heard this annoying question the most in the shortest amount of time “How is married life” As much as I know that they may mean well and some people just really want to know to prepare themselves for the time, the question can get so annoying mostly because it’s all you have heard since you got married, I mean no one cares about “How are …

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Happy New August ||Goals

Hello People!!! HAPPY NEW MONTH!!! Thank you so much for the love in my latest post, I really appreciate it. There was a glitch in the mobile comment section which has been fixed now. In this post, I requested for advice on how to manage my new ‘working from home’ arrangement and my boss told me to make to-do lists and I am very big on to-do list and that is probably the only routined habit I have been able to sustain and since we got married- after struggling for a few weeks – I have made it a point …

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