Death, Life and Living: Remembering a friend

With everything that is happening around us, it is so hard to ignore DEATH. In the past month it is no longer about deaths of older people but even the young. Oh Death! This your sting is getting close to home. A few weeks ago, my husband got a call that he lost a dear friend and client. I was shocked beyond words and some how locked in away as if to live in denial of the news. Yesterday, we went for the service held on his behalf and I was in awe of the things that were said about …

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What I did when I knew my marriage was over

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“I Do” “In Sickness and in health” “For better for worse” “For richer for poorer” “As long as you both shall live” “I do”   These were the vows I made before God and man. They felt like just mere words at the altar because my feet hurt from the heels and I really just wanted to get it over with as I am not a big fan of getting all the attention.

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7 Lessons I’ve learnt in 7 Years of Blogging

Hello People! Happy New June! It’s the beginning of the first half of the year. It’s amazing how this year has been, I am super grateful for God’s grace, mercy and I am grateful for You!! Those of you that still find time to read what I write. I am really grateful. SOooo… May 24, 2010 I wrote my first blog post ever. I remember asking on Facebook for name suggestions and since then my blog has evolved from The Rebirth of a Dramaqueen to Girl at the foot of the Hill to Arike and now the Counter Culture. Looking …

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Learning to walk again || The Counter Culture

  There is no way I can tell my story with revealing how extreme I can be sometimes – rather, most times. I’ve noticed this pattern in my life and here’s how it plays out; I am hit with a truth or curious about something, once I get convinced about it, I start a journey to the extreme to either learn or unlearn as the case may be. Here are a few examples of how it’s played out in my life. When I was in the university, It was the beginning of my second year in the university, a seemingly …

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January 2017 Recap and February goals

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  Happy New Month people! Welcome to the month of Love. Is it really just me or did January go by so fast? I know it felt long because there were 5 Mondays and Tuesdays in the month but all the same, it went by so fast. Phew. I am just glad we are making progress already. Here’s How my January went; Personal Goals: I didn’t have any written personal goals this year mainly because I didn’t think that I was gonna follow through with them if I made too much ‘fuss’ about the new year. One thing I knew …

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5 ways of dealing with Envy

Social media has made the world a global village, it comes with fair share of advantages and disadvantages. The fact that you can literally now see and know what is going on in other people’s lives by the click of a button can breed on of the disadvantages; Envy. Once upon a time if you were not told physically what was happening, there was no way of you knowing but this day and age brings to your attention things that people you don’t even know or have a relationship with are doing in their lives, gradually, one begins to feel …

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Happy New Year, 2016 Recap + First Giveaway!!!

Happy New year to you all!!!!!!!! 2016 was indeed an amazing year. I am forever grateful for the things that happened and while I am not a very huge fan of making a big deal out of a new year, I will be forever grateful because it gives me the opportunity to look back and evaluate. I know nothing magical is going to happen because it’s a “New Year” and I have to be the one to make a conscious effort to change whatever it is that needs to change with God’s help and that is exactly what I intend …

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I heard my president speak…

“Good governance is less about structure and rules than being focused, effective and accountable.” ― Pearl Zhu, Hello My people! It’s Day 3! OMG… I am actually doing this. LOL. Don’t let me get too excited. How are you all enjoying the Independence holiday? ************************************************************************************************************************ I am not one to always have an opinion about our beloved country. I have little or no interest in current affairs and I am always the one laughing at heated arguments about the country when 2 people are going at each other, it might be safe to say that I am not passionate about …

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2016: The year of our Lord

I don’t know why I kept thinking that this post will write itself. Happpppyyyy New Year People!!! January has just been flying by and it’s the 25th day already!!! How are you guys doing and how has the year been? I have been abit recluse this January for the singular reason that I just wanted some alone time to get my routine on a lock-down. 2015! Oh, what can I say? Phewwww! I had an idea that my life was gonna change at the beginning of the year but I had no clue how much it would. I was basically …

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Really! How are you?

  How are you? They hear the default “Fine” but not the silent sigh that comes after. You are scared of your honest answer so you hope they just hear it. You hope they just see it. You hope they just see the screams of “I need help” pouring out of your eyes. You can’t even make out the words if you try, so you just deep it in the pool of mask mixed with abit of culture and come out with the classic. “Fine”  Can someone look past your “Fine”? Will you let someone hear the screams of your …

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